she/they — 20 — lgbtq — autistic poc

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ao3commentoftheday:

ao3commentoftheday:

Being shamed for not knowing something leads to fear and guilt over not knowing something which leads to not asking for help when you need it which leads to failure which leads to more guilt and shame.

Embrace the fact that you don’t know everything. Be excited about getting the chance to learn something you didn’t know before. Celebrate someone else not knowing something and getting a chance to learn it.

Doing the opposite just leads to people who refuse to admit they don’t know something and thus refuse to learn because both the admission and the learning are painful to do.

Examples of shaming someone for not knowing something:

  • well yeah, of course. everyone knows that
  • you seriously didn’t know already?
  • who doesn’t know that
  • … yeah?
  • that’s so obvious, why would you even say that?
  • I’ve known that for years
  • you’re just finding out now?
  • I’m so stupid! How did I not know this?
  • Why didn’t I realize this? I’m so dumb!
  • what kind of an idiot doesn’t know that already?
  • why would anyone explain this?
  • does this really need to be said?

Just because you know something doesn’t mean everyone else does. And calling yourself stupid for not knowing means you think everyone else who doesn’t know is stupid too.

We’re born not knowing anything at all. Be kinder to yourself and be kinder to others as you learn in your own time. ❤️

maybuds:

the older i get, the more i need time & personal space to be as boring as possible

recoverr:

having a quiet life is so.. underrated. i don’t mean it in the sense that people who’re open and loud and busy aren’t important, but when our culture has significantly put so much emphasis on the definition of success as fame, extraordinary accomplishments, greatness and importance and excessive wealth, i think there is so much power to be found in our own anonymity. in the silence of life. in not being constantly perceived, analyzed and performing for the world. in being able to take a walk, smile at strangers and just notice the world without all that noise. taking the biggest pleasure out of the smallest joys, like a cup of coffee or blowing out birthday candles. knowing that our lives don’t have to be a grand spectacle for others in order to have worth and cause a good impact.

compassionatereminders:

You’ll get more chances. At friendships. At relationships. At job/school related progress. At following your dreams. At chasing your passions. It’s not now or never. There will always be other chances and other opportunities.

annaskom:

I was reminded from my previous post that I haven’t seen all the episodes of season two of Mushi-shi. And so I took some stills from episode six: Floral delusion. Originally written and drawn by Yuki Urushibara. The anime series is animated by Artland and directed by Hiroshi Nagahama.